The Wisdom of the Group

In our groups, there is a collective wisdom that has grown and been handed down over the years.  We learn many new solutions to old problems.  Central to these are the Twelve Steps, a spiritual program of recovery.  Following these steps leads to freedom from addictive sexual behaviors and to the healing of our minds, bodies, spirits, relationships, and sexuality. Sex Addicts Anonymous, page 2

Most everyone who struggles with sexual addiction feel that they need to solve the problem alone.

 Perhaps it was the shame I carried of what I was dong.  Perhaps it was this belief that I need to be self-sufficient and solve my own problems.  Perhaps it was this misguided hope that the key was in the next spiritual technique or the next book or the next sermon or the next resolve or the next discipline or the next statement of repentance.

But this unwieldy knot has been untied by others already.  There are other recovering sex addicts who have thought about the same uncontrolled passions, the same obsessions, the same rituals, the same shame, and have found a solution.

There is no advantage or benefit to struggling with a problem alone when others have already found the solution to long term sobriety.