Humility

Yesterday at the meeting we kicked off the step seven reading.  Humbly ask God to remove all of our defects of character.  

I suppose for some there for the pride to conquer the world around us.  But we sex addicts have found that when we ran the show, we ran the show into the ditch.

We don't want to live in shame, but our acting out hurt people, destroyed relationships, objectified people, put us in danger of disease and life, and moved us towards losing the things that we valued the most.  It wasn't our worst thinking that got us there but our best.

So we had to find a different way and that way was in humility.  The humility that is less self-preoccupied and boring.  The humility that lets us learn from God and others to enjoy the good things of life given to us.

Whiskey And Milk

Yesterday at the meeting, we discussed the story from the AA big book affectionately known as whiskey and milk.

An alcoholic, a bit disgruntled about working for a man who owns the company he once owned, went to a roadside restaurant and bar.  After a couple of sandwiches and glasses of milk, he had the crazy thought that if he put whiskey in the milk, the milk would counteract the alcohol and have no affect on him.

After a few drinks that led to another, he found himself in a complete relaps.

Internal consternation and unsettlement easily sets us off.  It puts us in a place to be where we are open to patently ridiculous ideas that bring us back into our addiction.  What are our sex addiction whiskey and milk stories we tell ourselves only to wake up in shame and regret the next morning?

A lot can be learned here - noting our serenity and when we are off, cultivating narratives that make illogical sense to us,  letting our rationalize lead us off the cliff.

It's all so subtle.  Which is why talking about these things in a group proves to be immensely helpful.

See you next Monday July 15th at 6 PM.

Step Seven and Humility

In our group share we talked about humbly asking God to remove our character defects.  For some of us, the simple desire to stop resenting our spouses seems impossible.  Humility is where our Higher Power is often bringing us to.  God's grace can bring us to the place where we can choose to let go of our cherished resentment.

It is easy to  to simply back away from our addition trying to make the overt behavior stop.  Over time, we learn to run towards recovery to be molded into a new person.  Great to hear the voices of others that help us examine our lives and set our hearts towards another week of sobriety.

E-mail us at WataugaShares@gmail.com to join us Monday night as we recover from sexual addiction together.